the one about the octuplets

Ok. I don't ever care what any of you write about on your blogs. Happy, sad, annoyed or even if you are mad at the world. I read it all, respect it and totally enjoy it! I, however, try not to use my blog as a venting tool. Just a personal choice. No biggie. But today, that is going to change. I just read my buddy Ramanda's blog and it made me want to shout out the fire within me concerning a certain topic.

Let's talk octuplets. Certainly you have heard the story of this crazy woman, a single mom, in California who gave birth to the 8 babies, while already having 6 children. Yah you know the story. Here is my take on it.

Brett and I are a normal (sorta) couple. We are not wealthy. We live paycheck to paycheck. We don't exercise very often and we don't have good eating habits. We are not the best when it comes to Church and spiritual stuff. My house is seldom spotless, and if it is, it is because I have hired someone to clean it. Sometimes, when I am lazy, I wear a pair of pants for a few days in a row so I don't have to wash them. I don't always flush the toilet when I make a #1. We are just simple people trying to survive in this crazy world. I know we aren't the best parents in the world. We make many mistakes, but I will guarantee that no child has ever been loved more by his parents than Quayd. When we found out that we could not have anymore children, we were devastated. We knew there was nothing more that we could do about it, so we better just make the best of it. We have found everything positive in our situation and we don't complain very often. We realize that these are the cards we were dealt. We would not trade Quayd for ANYTHING! But, my heart breaks everyday when I see how loansome Quayd is. I wish more than anything that my body would allow me to give him a sibling. And I know that Brett never wanted to be the father of one. I feel so inadequate and like such a disapointment when he talks about wanting another baby. We have looked into adoption, unfortunately, the cost is so high it is unrealistic for us. I feel like it would be unfair to Quayd and selfish of us to use our "everyday" money for that. Anyway, getting to my point... I think that this woman is horribly selfish and has put her wants and desires for the spotlight ahead of all of the children, her parents and everyday people... just like us. The government will support her and her children forever. They will always have food, health care and their needs will be met. However, they will never get the love and attention that each one of those 14 children deserve. I would love to have 14 Quayds. I would love to have two!! But I realize how special one Quayd is and that makes me perfectly happy. But this issue of the octuplets INFURIATES me to the core. It makes me think that this world is just not fair. I deal with feelings of guilt, anger, heartbreak, sorrow and inadequacy, every single day. While this selfish B#@%& has, now 14, children that she cannot possibly care for. All for her moment in the spotlight.

Please... I don't want sympathy!!! That is not why I posted this. I don't want advice. I get that everyday. "You know you could adopt." Yes, thank you. We know that. "It's time for Quayd to have a brother or sister!" Yes, it is time for that. It was time for that about 5 years ago.

Really, I am fine. Now I have vented and I feel TONS better.

Ramanda did awesome, by the way. If you are interested, click here.

the one about idiot parents (Not you, ma!)

I thought about posting this today anyway, but after reading my friend Ramanda's latest blog entry, I knew I had to do it. It's dumb and a little short, but this is proof that Quayd has a total jerk for a mother. I swear this was a total accident. I SWEAR!!!!!

Last night, Quayd was sound asleep in his bed. I had a huge, freezing cold, full to the top, glass of ice water and I totally spilled the WHOLE thing on my sleeping boy. He woke up scared, upset and wet. Isn't that just the saddest thing ever?!?!? What a horrible way to wake up! His bed was soaked, so he had to come sleep with mom and dad. (darnit) I usually hate having him sleep in my bed, but sometimes it is so nice to snuggle him all night. He is such a little cuddle bug.

Back to Ramamda though... She mentioned this quote from the Parent Trap, and I thought it was so funny and true!
"You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog, or drive a car. Hell, you need a license to catch a fish! But they'll let any butt-reaming @#$hole be a father." Ramanda mentioned that if you had to have a license to be a parent, hers would have been revoked a long time ago. Well, mine too. I do the dumbest things and it is a wonder that Quayd really loves me and has never tried to run away. Ok, one time he tried to run away because he was in trouble and he said, "I am the worst kid ever!" He packed his bear blank, and a couple of toys and headed out the back door. He only made it to the mailbox, though, before he came back. And can I just say, Quayd is such a WONDERFUL kid and rarely gets in trouble. Not only because he is a little spoiled, but also because he never does anything wrong!!! Seriously. I always say that Heavenly Father must have known what idiots Brett and I were so he made sure to give us the best kid!!! And did he ever. Quayd is so great and I sure hope I don't screw him up. Tara always says of her kids, "We aren't saving for our kids' missions or college, but for their therapy!"